ADVICE I’M GLAD I NEVER TOOK
The world is full of a mix of opinions, but sometimes you know when the advice you receive is simply bad advice…
As years pass by in your life, there are always moments where you receive that dreaded and unwanted guidance, not to be confused with constructive criticism… This post is about the advice you receive that you 110% disagree with.
Sometimes it can be just what you needed to hear, and sometimes it can make you even more confused than when you started.
Here is a list of bad advice that I’ve happily chosen not to take on board – some that turned out to be the best decisions I’ve ever made:
“Don’t go there… It’s unsafe!”
There have been a couple of locations on my travels that have left me with this response, even in regards to places that I’ve only spoken about visiting.
Sometimes I totally understand the fear; the media portrays countries by constant negativity. We only ever hear the bad stories about a destination and the things that we need to be wary of.
The problem, however, is that this encourages us to live our lives in fear.
I personally throw this advice straight into the bin, because who wants to live their entire life worried about what might happen next? Our lives will flash before our eyes and it will be filled with constant regrets!
And for the most part, all of these comments turned out to be soooooo far from the truth.
“Always be positive / cheer up”
No, no, no, no, no!
Being positive is an incredible trait, but telling someone to cheer up is essentially saying that their emotions aren’t valid.
Never take mental health lightly… If you feel sad, be sad! If you feel angry, be angry (to a degree of course 😛 )! Allowing yourself to feel your emotions without feeling the need to suppress them is so important.
Yes, there are always people that have it so much worse, but you should always put your wellbeing as a priority.
Being selfish can be a terrible thing, but when you think about it, how can you expect to look after other people when you can’t even look after yourself?
“You need to go to university – it’s so important”
Ahhhhhh, the good old university chat!
I can remember the exact moment that this was said to me during my last year of high school; I was sitting with a teacher who was trying to convince me that not completing year 12 or going to university was the worst decision of my life.
In his eyes, I was going to be a failure as soon I stepped out of my last moment of education.
Well here’s the thing… How are you supposed to know what the rest of your life is going to look like if you’ve spent 3 quarters of your existence cooped up in school?
At the age of 4, you start your life in early education, and from then until the age of 18, you spend day-in, day-out in the same school where you’ll sit in the same classrooms and learn the same subjects.
Don’t get me wrong… School is SO important. But how on earth are you supposed to discover what you want to do in life when you’ve been stuck doing the same thing for as long as you can remember?
I can’t remember my life before I started school, so how am I meant to know who I really want to be?
“It’s best not to say anything”
As you may have seen, a few months ago I posted an article about a comment that I received on social media that was targeted at sexual assault. I posted about the incident on social media and encouraged others to speak up, and to not let these things ever be taken lightly.
99% of the countless messages I received were incredibly positive and totally agreed with all that I had to say, although one person tried to inform me that I was handling it in the wrong way… That putting up a fight was exactly what the person wanted and that it was best that I say nothing at all.
Of course, everyone has their own opinion but in my eyes, this only contributes to the problem. That women need to stay quiet when their bodies are objectified or threatened as an item of sexual desire.
From that article, I ended up in the local newspaper which was spreading awareness about online abuse – I think I made the right decision.
“There’s no more room for bloggers”
Before I started blogging, and even during the entire process, I would get advice from other people in the industry to learn the tips and tricks. I would listen to podcasts, I would join Facebook groups, I would reach out to those that I admired and more… The problem with this is that a few people very quickly said that “there’s no more room for bloggers!”
What a load of bollocks!
Of course, the internet has become very over saturated with people wanting to live the “dream lifestyle”. There are millions and millions and millions of blogs on the net, especially those that are dedicated to travel.
But let me tell you, there’s room for absolutely everyone!
Although I don’t have millions of followers on all my social media platforms, I started this blog about 18 months ago and it was the very best decision I ever made.
I knew I had something to fall back on if it failed, but I said no to that crummy advice and gave it my best shot. The internet is a welcoming place – if you have a story to tell, there’s always someone on here who will listen.
“Ignorance is bliss – it’s easier to not know”
Now, this is by FAR the worst advice I have ever received.
It’s something that I’m sure you’ve all heard in your lifetime; whether that be when thrown around at the dinner table or in a more meaningful discussion.
To be honest, this is something that I heard a few days ago, and it couldn’t be any further from the truth.
Now that I have been vegetarian for a few years, hearing this term literally makes my blood boil to the absolute brink.
But no matter whether it’s regarding religion, poverty, race, sexuality or animal welfare… Ignorance is never bliss.
We humans have a whole lot to learn – and it’s only fair that we learn all the facts before coming to our own conclusions. It’s in our nature to hide behind the fear in order to be comfortable…
But it’s 2018, and it’s definitely time to put acceptance over ignorance. Accept that things will upset you, they will hurt you, they will make you feel uncomfortable, but in the end, it’s an opportunity to be educated!
Ignorance isn’t bliss. Ignorance is ignorance.
What is the worst piece of advice you’ve ever received? And make sure you don’t confuse them with constructive criticism – they should always be welcomed!
This post was inspired by InTheFrow.
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