18 THINGS I’VE LEARNED IN MY EARLY 20’S
Over the last few years, I’d like to think that I’ve transitioned from a confused teen, to an entirely self-functioning adult in her early 20’s.
At this point, I’m approaching 22; so when I say that I’m in my early 20’s… I actually mean it. If I look back a few short years, my late teenage life was actually very different to the life I now live – Not so much in a literal sense, but in my opinions, perspectives and morals… The more I think about it, the more I realise that I’m basically a whole new person.
It’s been a few years of self-discovery, finding my place and recognizing what’s truly important to me – And here’s exactly what I’ve learnt.
It’s Okay to not be Okay
One of the bravest things you can do is to tell yourself that you’re not okay. As much as it is deemed as a sign of weakness, it is merely a sign of strength.
Success is not Financial
This is one that I’ve gradually learnt throughout my entire life. But over the last few years, it’s really become clear to me that money will never buy my happiness or success; likewise that my success will never be depicted by my career. As I’ve grown up, I’ve come to really understand that filling your wallet is insignificant if you’re yet to fill your heart.
Popularity is Irrelevant
I’ve never been one to care about popularity, but when I was in school, there were a few aspects that I absolutely loathed – the drama that came along with social hierarchy, the constant fight for popularity, and the very toxic environment mixed with the need for inferiority.
It didn’t take me long to realise that having a few friends that care about you is much more important than having a lot that don’t.
Gender and Sexuality are ill-defined
Being masculine is not defined by a muscular physique, an arrogant attitude or attracting a lot of women.
Being feminine is not defined by a curvaceous figure, pink frilly clothing or wearing a lot of makeup.
Gender and sexuality have no single definition – nor should you ever let it define you.
Stereotypes are Misleading
Stereotypes are essentially judging someone based on a complete generalisation. They encourage you to replace your own thoughts and opinions with a very quick assumption. Instead of seeing things with an open mind, stereotypes manipulate you to take another person’s opinion rather than your own.
Don’t judge a book by its cover, right?
Discrimination has no Excuse
It’s merely taught behaviour – there’s nothing more to it.
Time is Precious
I read something a few days ago which really resonated with me –
Don’t be scared of growing old, be scared of wasting time.
Cheesy I know, but it’s important to remember that your time could run out at any minute; it would be such a shame have wasted it.
Dreams have no Expiration
It’s never too late.
Change is Growth
We should never be fearful of change in direction – You could say I’m living proof of that. Over the last few years, my beliefs have changed more than you could possibly imagine, and that is not something to ever despise.
Change is growth, and growth is having the ability to accept exactly how you’ve changed.
There’s more than one way to Live
You should never be confined to one way of life, nor should you expect the 7 billion people on this planet to be confined to one either. There is no right way to live.
Human Rights are never Optional
Every single person deserves to be treated with respect, no matter their colour, their religion or their beliefs. We were all born into this world as free individuals, no one should have that freedom taken away due to circumstances beyond their control.
Helping others is just as important as helping yourself
As much as we can’t forget to take care of ourselves, we also can’t forget to take care of others – Treat others exactly how you’d want to be treated, and absolutely no less.
Comparison is a Theif
Comparison steals love, joy and happiness from the human race. It is the backbone of greed and jealousy, and it makes us breed hatred towards people that have achieved nothing but greatness.
Like I always say; let’s show compassion over comparison.
Love will always Win
In a world where hatred is often all that we hear, it’s easy to forget about the frequent positivity and love that surrounds us. It’s so crucial to not ignore the little things, and to remember that love is always going to be much stronger than hate ♡
Words can be just as Powerful as Actions
I know there’s that saying “actions speak louder than words”, and in a lot of instances that is entirely true. But to me, words are just as powerful.
Mental abuse is just as hurtful as physical, and words can impact just as much as actions. I don’t know whether I’m biased due to having a blog that is based on words that essentially revolve around my actions – but stop and think about the many times that words have deeply affected you – both positively and negatively.
They’re pretty damn powerful.
There’s no Planet B
This earth is our only hope – Let’s not stuff this up.
Travel is more than just a Holiday
Holidays should be more than just luxurious hotels, expensive restaurants and a bunch of admirable images. Travel is about seeing a side of the world that is unlike your own, and accepting the diversity that lies within it.
Travel opens your heart, it challenges your thoughts, and it changes your life for good.
I’m Incredibly Privileged
I live this beautiful life purely because I’m a white woman born into a westernised country. My appearance has given me the freedom that millions of people don’t have access to – and that is something that I will never take for granted.
Things need to change, and unfortunately, that will never happen until people stop abusing their privilege.
What are the most valuable things you’ve learnt in your life?
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