LET’S TALK ABOUT ‘CHANGE’
“You’ve changed” – “Why are you so different?” – “I miss the old you”
Over the last few days, I’ve come to realise how much I’ve really changed. Or as I like to call it… Grown.
I was once someone that was deeply interested in beauty, who wanted to live in the city with an apartment and a studio. I loved making others feel good by improving their appearance, rather than improving their self-esteem.
Over the last few years (and thank goodness might I add), I began to explore the world more than what I once had. My horizons grew, my mind opened and I slowly began to realise what I really wanted in life.
I went from being a person that had no comprehension of the outside world, to now being someone who literally can’t shut it off.
I now no longer have to put makeup on my face in order to feel good. I no longer want to live in the city, care about outer beauty or be defined by my image. Instead, I desire to really see the world, live a fulfilling life, and be empowered by diversity and this beautiful planet we call home.
You might say that my path has literally gone from one extreme to the other, and yes, you’d be right. I was once extremely careful – close-minded, ignorant and quite secluded from the outside world. Now I’m much the opposite – brave, adventurous and very open-minded (if I do say so myself).
I’ve gone from ignoring major problems in the world when they didn’t effect me, to now being someone that tries to take action when they are undoubtedly wrong.
But what I try to remember, is that the person I am now is really no different to who I used to be. I’m still me, just a version of myself that I now love. My interests have changed, my beliefs have changed and my morals of changed. But guess what, I’m still me.
In today’s society, we fear change like it’s going from the sunshine to a storm. Not so much within ourselves, but within others.
When we see people around us beginning to change their ways, criticising is the most common reaction. We think the worst, simply because they no longer fit the image of what we first knew. Their interests, hobbies and beliefs are no longer similar to ours, so they’re judged for simply stepping out of the box we clearly want them to stay in.
No matter whether you’re a person who loves the concept of change; who thrives out of trying new things and who refuses to confine themselves to one lifestyle, path or career (aka. me) Or someone who is terribly afraid of alteration; who is stuck in old habits and struggles to try anything new – You will always change.
Change is growth. It’s so important to recognise that when people begin to change, although it may not always be for the better, they are on a journey of growth. Criticising someone for changing their direction is completely foolish, because after all, you’ve done it at some point in your life too.
So, stop and think about what this world would be like if we never changed? Stop and think about what your life would be like right now?
Personally, I’d be living a life I think I’d now hate. I’d still be eating meat (no judgement here), I’d still be completely close-minded and I’d be encouraging others to feel beautiful from the outside, rather than from the inside.
I may have lost people for my change in direction, but I’ve also met many in a life I now love. You win some you lose some right?
Think about how sad this world would be if we were never to alter; it would be full of extreme hatred, discrimination and war that we’ve already once seen. The world has changed drastically, and people can too.
It’s terribly sad that this has been made into something that we frequently fear. Seeking others approval is something we strive to have, but we often forget that our own approval is what is most important.
The people that truly care, are the ones who will show support through all changes in your life. The rest will come and go when it suits them, and they’re the people we should never seek approval from. Because you’re still you, just a version of you that’s on a journey of contentment and success.
After all, I really do believe that everything happens for a reason (cheesy I know) but it’s the truth.
Being open to change is such a beautiful quality to have. Regardless of if you’re a lover or a hater of it, being open-minded will expand your walls and lead you to take risks that will potentially impact your life – for the good.
I always try to remember that trying new things leads to growth, and growth often leads to change. It’s just up to us to embrace it.
“If we don’t change, we don’t grow. If we don’t grow, we aren’t really living.” – Gail Sheehy
( Has your direction ever changed paths? I’d love to know, X )
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